Bridget Goes, 25, believes that a friend’s expensive trip to New York City should not become her problem. She disagrees with the idea that high hotel prices give guests the right to stay at her home for free, calling such requests “rude,” especially if the guest offers nothing in return. Many online users responded to her opinion, and some were critical of her view. One commenter expressed a wish to avoid friends with such attitudes.
Goes shared her thoughts with nearly 3 million followers on TikTok, urging people to stop asking friends living in the city for free stays. She emphasized that it is inconsiderate to ask someone if they can stay at their place if that offer was never made.
Highlighting events like Harry Styles’ long concert series at Madison Square Garden, which runs through October 31, she suggested that those visiting the city should book a hotel instead. Goes encouraged people to look into hostels if they are on a budget. She argued that if someone cannot afford to stay in New York, they should either go home the same night or skip the concert altogether.
Additionally, Goes pointed out that if someone is invited to stay, it is also inconsiderate to leave without bringing a small gift for the host or treating them to a meal afterward. Her comments received immediate backlash, as some viewers expressed disappointment in friends who chose hotels over staying with them, especially if they had known each other for a while.
However, there were also supporters of Goes’ perspective. One user shared that they feel sad when friends choose to spend money on a hotel instead of staying with them, as it brings them joy to help friends save money. Another commentator questioned the purpose of friendship if one cannot ask for favors.
In a related discussion, another user criticized Gen Z for their complaints about various issues. Some echoed that younger generations often see problems everywhere. Despite the criticism, Goes had allies too. Another TikTok creator, Kat Capili, suggested that Goes was not necessarily talking about close friends but rather acquaintances or those who don’t have a strong relationship with her.
Capili, who also lives in New York, shared that she has received requests from people she hasn’t spoken to in years, including those who bullied her in school. She argued that these types of requests are not appropriate and should not be normalized. Capili explained that social media creates a false sense of friendship, where people feel connected just by liking posts, even if they aren’t really friends.
The debate around this topic continues.
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