Divorce is one of the most stressful events a person can experience, ranking high on the Holmes-Rahe Stress Scale, just after the death of a spouse. Supporting a friend through a divorce can be challenging, but divorce lawyer James Sexton shared some effective ways to help friends during this tough time.
One important tip is to connect with your friend where they are emotionally. Sexton advises friends to avoid imposing their own ideas of support and instead focus on understanding what their friend truly needs. It’s essential to listen and meet them at their emotional level.
Another helpful suggestion is to offer a “menu” of activities when spending time together. Friends can say they will visit and provide different options for how to spend that time. This could include discussing the divorce, sharing funny stories, crying together, or simply having a good laugh. If one option doesn’t feel right, they can easily switch to another.
Sexton also points out that it’s okay not to have the perfect words to say. Friends can acknowledge the difficulty of finding the right words while expressing their love and concern for their friend.
Finally, asking a specific question can show support. Friends can offer to help by asking if they can do something for their friend, like helping with chores or cooking a meal. This approach conveys love and support during a difficult time.
These insights from James Sexton aim to help friends be more supportive during a divorce.
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Source: Upworthy, by Emily Shiffer