Talking about sensitive topics can be very uncomfortable. Whether someone shares too much personal information or brings up subjects like politics or religion, it can be tough to say you want to change the topic. Charisse Sims, a mother of six and host of the Parenting for the Culture podcast, recently highlighted this in a popular Instagram post. She explained that no matter how you handle it, the situation will feel awkward. Therefore, it’s wise to choose the option that feels less damaging.
Sims offered advice on how to exit these awkward conversations. While discussing a recent uncomfortable moment with her nine-year-old daughter, she noticed her daughter’s unease. Sims suggested that when someone feels uncomfortable, they should respond by saying they do not want to continue that discussion and want to talk about something else.
Sims encouraged her daughter to practice saying this phrase to help her remember it for future use. Her daughter expressed that changing the subject might be hard. Many people likely share this concern about telling someone they want to shift the conversation. However, Sims pointed out that it can be uncomfortable in either case, so it’s important to choose the option that is more manageable.
Sims acknowledged that asserting boundaries can be difficult because people fear hurting others’ feelings and want to be liked. However, she emphasized that it’s also uncomfortable to stay in an awkward situation for a long time. She encouraged choosing the discomfort that is better for personal well-being.
Etiquette expert Candace Smith adds that having a different topic ready can ease the transition when changing the subject. She suggests keeping a positive attitude and warm eye contact when indicating a change in conversation.
Sims’ guidance is valuable for everyone, including adults, facing uncomfortable situations. She believes children need more help and practice in navigating such challenges. Child development experts highlight that role-playing assertive phrases can help children use them in real-life situations.
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Source: Upworthy, by Tod Perry